Hear What OPRAH Had to Say About MEN

Useful tips for all u gals out there..

If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn’t want
you, nothing can make him stay.
Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.
Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.
Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that’s not meant
to be.

Slower is better. Never live your life for a man before you find
what makes you truly happy.
If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you
deserve then heck no, you can’t “be friends”. A friend wouldn’t
mistreat a friend.

Don’t settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he
probably is.
Don’t stay because you think “it will get better.” You’ll be mad at
yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.
The only person you can control in a relationship is you.
Avoid men who’ve got a bunch of children by a bunch of different
women. He didn’t marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he
treat you any differently?

Always have your own set of friends separate from his.
Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers
you, speak up.
Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.
You cannot change a man’s behavior. Change comes from within.

Don’t EVER make him feel he is more important than you are… even
if he has more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a
quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less.
Never let a man define who you are.
Never borrow someone else’s man. If he cheated with you, he’ll
cheat on you.

A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.
All men are NOT dogs.
You should not be the one doing all the bending…compromis e is two
way street.
You need time to heal between relationships. ..there is nothing
about baggage… deal with your issues before pursuing a new
You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you… a relationship
consists of two WHOLE individuals. Look for someone complimentary,
not supplementary.

Dating is fun…even if he doesn’t turn out to be Mr. Right.
Make him miss you sometimes… when a man always know where you
and you’re always readily available to him – he takes it for
Never move into his mother’s house. Never co-sign for a man. Don’t
fully commit to a man who doesn’t give you everything that you
Keep him in your radar but get to know others.


My favorite Quotes

I’ve just read my friend’s blog..
It left me thinking.. I’ve felt that way, and I read something that inspire me..
It helped me get through. So, I want to share it with all of you..
I hope it will inspire you too..

Here’s my fav quotes:

“You are not a victim, but a leader in creating the situations and emotions that are present in your life.” –anonymous-

 “Don’t look to find the reasons for your problems in others. They are only inside you” -anonymous-

“Change can come in either of two important ways: Start behaving positively or stop behaving negatively…” -anonymous-

“A thankful person is thankful under all circumstances. A complaining soul complains even if he lives in paradise” -anonymous-

“ Take each good day and relish each moment. Take each bad day and work to make it good.” -anonymous-

“The very first step toward success in any occupation is to become interested in it. -Sir William Osler-

“People who consistently win play the game with passion. They get excited about what they are doing !” -anonymous-

“Don’t cry because it’s over….SMILE because it happened…” -anonymous-

“You will never “find” time for anything. If you want time you must make it.” -Charles Buxton-

 “You must make a life decision that you would rather be well by yourself than sick with someone else” -anonymous-

“Life is a succession of lessons which must be lived to be understood” -Hellen Keller-

“In three words, I can sum up everything I’ve learned about life : it goes on.” -Robert Frost-

“Forgiveness is not about the other person. It’s about you!” -anonymous-

“Make it a habit to give- whether yourself, your time, your money, a word of encouragement, or a listening ear and you will find peace and happiness that cannot be beat.” -anonymous-

“Forget trying to figure out what will bring you happiness…Try to make others happy, and then happiness will find you….” -anonymous-

“I always looking for myself for strength and confidence but it comes from within. It is there all the time.” -Anna Freud –

“If something seems far too big for you to cope with, maybe it’s because you’re meant to share the load with someone else..” -anonymous-

“ I like who I am know. Other people may not. I’m comfortable. I feel freer now. I don’t want growing older to matter to me.” -Meryl Streep-

“Everybody wants to do something to help, but nobody wants to be first….” -Pearl Bailey- American Singer

“If you can’t feed a hundred people, then feed just one!” -Mother Theresa-

“I can’t” are sad words in any language…..” -anonymous-

“I think that each of the failures I had to face provided me with the opportunity of starting again and trying something new.” -Colonel Sanders, Kentucky Fried Chicken- 

“When we have accepted the worst, we have nothing more to lose. And that automatically means – We have everything to gain!” – from the writings of Dale Carnegie-

“A long life may not be good enough, but a good life is long enough.” -Benjamin Franklin-

“Instead of worrying about people say of you, why not spend your time trying to accomplish something they will admire…” -from the writings of Dale Carnegie-

“The test of courage comes when we are in the minority. The test of tolerance comes when we are in the majority…” –anonymous-

“It is not always what you say that makes the difference: sometimes it is the way you say it.” -anonymous-

Thank you Christine Hawono for sending me her daily “Quote of the Day”.
You’ve helped inspire me.

-Diriku Pikiranku-

A little something to think about..

When I born, I Black,
When I grow up, I Black,
When I go in Sun, I Black,
When I scared, I Black,
When I sick, I Black,
And when I die, I still black..
And you White fella,
When you born, you Pink,
When you grow up, you White,
When you go in Sun, you Red,
When you cold, you Blue,
When you scared, you Yellow,
When you sick, you Green,
And when you die, you Gray..
And you calling me Colored ??

Aly El Sahly

This poem was nominated poem of 2005 for the best poem, written by an African kid. It really gives us something to think about, right? Let’s stop Racism!!

Selametan Blog Baru…

Dengan mengucap Bismillahirrohmanirrohim.. dengan ini saya resmikan blog baru saya.. Semoga bermanfaat bagi pembaca.. Amien..

(Hehehe…norak yach.. ;p Semoga isinya ga senorak kata pembukanya..)

Hi guys and gals! Welcome to my blog.

Truth be told, this is my first attempt of showing off my writings.

I maybe not be an excellent writer nor am I a poetic person. I’m just a simple girl who has this BIG dream of making her life meaningful to others.

Maybe, through putting my thoughts into words.. then words into sentences.. and then put them all together in a structured paragraphs.. I’ll be able to take my first step on this long journey towards my dreams. At least that’s what I had in mind when I first started this blog.

Basically this blog is about my experience, my thoughts, and the things that inspired me. Hopefully, it will inspire you too. To make it easier, I’ve grouped my writing into several categories (as you can see on the right side of this page).  Feel free to roam through the pages and tell me what you think.

Some of my writings are in Indonesian, some are in English, and some are a mixed of both (like this somewhat “opening speech” J). I did it for no particular reason actually, just choosing which was better to express my opinion.. (or as you may suspect, it can also be my poor attempt to cover up my inadequacies in English. :p).  Kiranya pemilihan kata-kata ku masih berantakan, masih perlu banyak polesan.. Mohon dimaafkan. Terlepas dari apapun bungkusnya, semoga isinya dapat bermanfaat.

Mari kita sebagai anak negeri, menyebarkan energi positif untuk anak muda Indonesia, melalui tulisan-tulisan positif dan membangun! Amien!

Mohon masukannya. Your feedback is most welcome!


-Diriku Pikiranku-

About Me.. My Thoughts.. My Dreams..