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Breaking Out of Your Comfort Zone..

Sorry for disappearing for a while. It’s just that I’ve been feeling so negative this last couple of months which affected my writing. Since I don’t feel keen about publishing my complaints and confusion, I decided to lay low for a while. Gratefully, my mood is gradually getting better..and Walah..at last, an inspiration came to write something positive rather than the usual endless rants and complaints.

It started from watching a show called MTV MADE

(Yes..I recently became “anak nongkrong MTV” ;p).

MTV MADE is a self-improvement reality television series broadcast on MTV. The series follows teens who have a goal and want to be “made” into things like singers, athletes, dancers, skateboarders, etc. The teens are joined by a “Made Coach”, an expert in their chosen field, who tries to help them attain their goals over the course of several weeks. Made documents the process the teens undergo as they try to achieve their goal.

I don’t usually dig reality shows..cause sometimes I think they are just “fake” reality TV, with scripts and actors who acted as if in real situation (which proved to be true for some cases). But I must admit, this one is different. It gives a positive message for viewers to break out of your comfort zone and go after your goal..however impossible and ridiculous it may seems.

One of the episode which is hilariously funny is about a 17-year-old boy name Keith, a big-muscled-senior and part-time garbage man known around his high school for being a meathead and a redneck. He wants to shed that image by doing something graceful, thus asked to be MADE  into a Ballroom Dancer. HUH?? Yeah..right!

But this show is serious. They gave Keith a professional dancing teacher to teach him how to Tango and prepare him to compete in the school’s Harvest Ball Dance-Off competition. They put him through ballet lesson, Yoga, jump rope, even circuss classes. And believe me..for a boy his size..it’s Tough! But through the hard training, and a couple attempts of quitting, he finally pull through and manage to win the competition. How about that?

There are a lot of other episodes of teenagers trying to reach their dreams, such as becoming a cheerleader, rapper, hip hop dancer, rock star, triathlete, debater, pro wrestler, Skateboarder, even a ladies man! Made is currently in its 10th season, and has recently started a series in Canada, France and Germany. Overall, this is the one reality show that I recommend to watch. While other reality shows mainly commercialize poverty or personal shame, Made inspire teenagers to not be affraid to dream by giving them examples of others around the world daring to break out of their comfort zone, conquer their fear, and achieve something that they really crave for.

Hhmm.. it got me thinking.. what real step have I taken lately to reach my dream?


The BIG Decision..

I’ve waited so long for this moment..

The moment when a new door opens up for me.. leads me to a new opportunity.. Full of promises of a learning experience, of an increased responsibility, of a challenge that may well be above my current capacity. A means to trial my abilities, to exercise my potentials, to see if I got what it takes to take myself to the next level..

In a nutshell, a learning curve is finally awaits!

So here I am.. just a decision away from entering that new door.. the one that will lead me to that learning curve.. The opportunity finally arrive..

And I freeze.

Even after imagining for quite some time, what it would be like to finally make that final choice.. to take that first step away from this steady state.. this comfort zone that I’m in.. When the time finally come to make that decision, I found myself scared stiff. I was terrified to choose that path. Afraid of the outcomes.

What if I do not have what it takes?

What if I do not  fit with the new culture and the new environment?

What if I fail to deliver result and ended up being let go?

What if I make the wrong decision and end up in a place far worse from where I am now?

Those “what-ifs” and other negative thoughts filled my mind. Clouding my thoughts from other possibilities.. Because THERE IS another probable outcome of that decision. THERE IS another promising end of this scenario..

What if I DO have what it takes to do this?

What if I AM able to rise to the challenge and conquer it?

Then I will develop my self in the process.. I will grow intellectually and emotionally..  I will make an impact..make a meaning out of myself and my roles..  I will be several steps closer to my goal..

In light of that other possible outcome..  I wonder..  Is it worth the risk?

Of course it is!

I know i may fail this..but I can also succeed.

I can plan to succeed.

I can prepare my self, do my homework, develop my game plan, fight to succeed!

Therefore, I will not let this negativity hinder me from reaching my goal.

I am going to take that final step.

I have made my decision. May GOD guides me through the challenges that lies ahead.

I am ready.

Finding the Right Job

“It is virtually impossible to know where any given job will take you. In fact, if you meet someone who has faithfully followed a career plan, try not to get seated beside him at a dinner party. What a bore!” -Jack Welch-

I particularly like these words by Jack Welch. It’s like an AHA! moment for me.

I was confused about what I want to do with my life. My job was a bore. I had so many options of what I want to do with my life and I didn’t seem to know which one I want to focus on? All of them are nice and they all fit with my vision.

So, I had no clue. I was to busy thinking.. figuring what my next move was.. and while doing that, I ended up spending a year doing absolutely nothing! Go figure! 🙂

I wasn’t living.. just merely surviving. Up until my best friend gave me a really good advice that set me on track. He said “You think too much! Why don’t you just try them all. See how it goes. Surely one of them will lead you to what you were looking for. If you’re to busy thinking, you’ll end up not doing anything.” (Yes Fer, it’s YOU. I know how “Narsis” you are so I’ll give you the credit here, assuming you read this ;p).

And then I read another thing that Jack Welch said in his book Winning:

“How do you find the right job?

The first answer is simple: you endure the same gummy, time-consuming, up-and-down, iterative process that all working people go through. You take one job, discover what you like and don’t like about it and what you’re good and bad at, and then, in time, change jobs to get something closer to the right fit. And you do that until one day you realize—hey, I’m finally in the right job. I like what I’m doing, and I’m making the trade-offs I’m willing to make.”


So finally, I’ve decided, what the hell, let just give them all a try and see what happens. Let GOD lead the way. And it’s just the liberation I needed. I’m now pursuing three of my life options, all at the same time. I know that when the time comes, I’ll know which one to focus on. Or maybe, these roads I take would lead me to another option entirely different, who knows!

But at least I’m living..

No one said it better than a friend of mine. “Some people are Snipers. They know exactly what their target is and plan carefully in great detail to make the kill. But we, Yoan, are Bombers. We know the area we want to destroy then we throw bombs at them, see which one does the job. We both have generic dreams with a whole lot of alternatives to pursue it. It’s ok to try all of them, provided each alternatives lead to the same area.. the same big picture.”

I laughed when I heard it. What a creative way to put it. But he’s right! It’s ok to have generic dreams.. it’s ok to want to do everything.. Discovering your dream is a journey itself. As long as you stick to your life vision and actually doing something to reach it, you will get there!

I know I’ll get there! 🙂

PS: Thank you Frans, for the “original analogy”. I know I’m a bomber now. LOL.