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Still about my farewell..  Here’s a little something that my friend wrote to me on my last day at the office.. Along with a picture of a caricature they made for me..   I found it so touching, I’d like to share it in this blog.  Tengkyu yach Dek Vintya..  I miss your crazy-cool-nature already! 🙂

Dear Mbak Yoan,

Ini adalah email terakhirku sebelum mbak Yoan bener” hengkang dari sini, hehe..

Jadi, kita beri saja judul “Surat Terakhirku Untukmu di Kepegawaian Asuransi Astra Buana”

Buseeeeeett panjang giling..

Mungkin aku gak selama temen-temen, kakak, atau Oom yang sudah lebih lama bareng mbak (kayanya bukan mungkin deh, ini mah kenyataan)

Tapi aku cuma mau ucapin makasi ya, buat pertemanan kita..

Bangku itu akan kosong untuk sementara..

Dengan kenangan seorang karyawati rajin nan cekatan yang gak bisa diganggu kalo lagi ngolah data..

Karyawati yang harus ditimpuk apabila teman-temannya memanggil, ia lebih asyik mendengarkan tembang kesayangan melalui earphonenya.

Karyawati yang selalu datang di atas jam 8, dan suka keder nyariin (tlf) mbak Ira setiap mau pulang (hhhh, mbak ira pasti kehilangan).

Karyawati yang jarang di tempatnya karena sibuk mendapat orderan (apa coba)..

Karyawati yang selalu telat membaca email kita.. dan tertawa membahas sendiri (iiih basi deeeeh)

Karyawati yang selalu menganggap banyak hal menjadi sesuatu yang serius..

Hmmm, perempuan bernama Yoan itu seorang teman yang sabar dalam mengajarkan, betah untuk mendengarkan, penyemangat ketika mood temannya mengalami penurunan..

Teman di satu blok cubicle ini.. yang menempati bangku yang sementara akan segera kosong itu..

Hmm, good luck ya mbak..

Mudah-mudahan selangkah keluar dari sini bisa membuat mbak jauh lebih sukses dari yang sekarang..

Take care and May Allah always bless you ya mbak.

Have a gorgeous gorgeous life..

Salam-salam bergembiralah!


gift-from-frensCaricature of me and my karaoke friends.. Miss u all..


Counting the Days..

I now understand the true meaning of:

“You can’t really appreciate what you have until it’s gone”.

I immediately remembered what J.K Rowling wrote in Harry Potter and The Deadly Hallows, in the part where Harry realizes that he is about to die. It goes a bit like this:

“Slowly, very slowly, he sat up, and as he did so he felt more alive, and more aware of his own living body than ever before. Why had he never appreciated what a miracle he was, brain and nerve and bounding heart? It would all be gone..

Every second he breathed, the smell of the grass, the cool air on his face, was so precious; to think that people had years and years, time to waste, so much time it dragged, and he was clinging to each second. “

Such irony, huh? It is human nature I guess. We always take things for granted.. Only fully appreciate something when we were about to lose them. We keep forgetting that even simple thing such as our beating hearts or the air that we breathe is a blessing that we ought to be grateful for. It’s not that we don’t KNOW it. We just simply take it as NORMAL, thus we do not feel the need to be thankful for it.

It’s close to what I feel right now. On my last week at my current company (my resignation is effective next week), I realize several things:

  • As I took the daily trip to the office, I found I love it! No matter how congested the traffic is.  I love watching the palm trees pass me by, on the road sides of Pondok Indah. The beauty of living and working in South Jakarta is that it is so GREEN! They are trees everywhere you look. So different from other part of the city which only provide concrete and steel as everyday scenery.
  • As I wrote my goodbye email, I realized I have so many colleagues who were always ready to lend me a helping hand. So many that, in fact, I have to revise my thank you note 5 times before it fit in 1 page (unfortunately deleting several of the names and replace it with their group names instead.. I’m very upset about that.. 😦 )
  • As I went on my farewell trip with my team, I realize they’re such a crazy cool bunch. Even my boss!! Go figure! ;p It makes me sad because I never put the effort to get to know them a lot better, to see what beneath the veils.
  • As I shake hands with my colleagues, they said nice things about how much they appreciate my work. It makes me realize I’ve done something meaningful to them. That I have helped. It makes me try to see myself from their perspective.. That maybe I didn’t appreciate myself enough.

In a nutshell, I found that the things I usually take as ordinary are the things that I’ll miss most when I’m gone. The trip to the office, the small talks in the morning with my team over breakfast, the teasing nature of my boss and the sound of us laughing together over it, the helping nature of all my colleagues.. Everything that have accompanied me through the four years of my employment.. The very reason why I decided to join this company in the first place..

I will miss them so much..

Even so, there are no regrets. I have made a decision to move forward and pursue my learning curve. But still, this is a lesson I will try to always remember in my years to come. In the future, I will take better care at appreciating and be thankful for everything that I’ve been blessed with.. even the small and ordinary stuff. For they are the colors of my life.. Because of them my life is beautiful.  🙂

Goodbye team.. I’ll miss you dearly..

Goodbyes are not forever.

Goodbyes are not the end.

They simply mean I’ll miss you

Until we meet again!



I finally get my dream..

Laying down on the quiet beach..

Looking up to the sky..

Breathing the warm sea breeze..

Listening to the sound of the waves crashing to the shore..

Even the sky seems to cooperate.. It’s cloudy surface protecting us from the harsh rays of the sun..

Here I lay.. on a secluded beach near Tanjung Layar, Sawarna. Surrounded by friends, half of them are previously strangers that I met at the beginning of this trip. Yet, here we are, just 18 hours after, already developing a friendship, bonded by mutual passion in traveling and enjoying all the beauty the nature has to offer. My travel mates, I called them. Hanging out and just having a great time!

As I rest my head on the sand overlooking the breathtaking ocean.. Reflecting my first 18-hours-experience from this whole 4 days trip to Sawarna Beach and Ujung Kulon.. I can not help but wonder..

WOW! What a GREAT way to meet new friends..

lompatPictures taken by Faisal Reza

On my Birthday..

A friend told me on my birthday:
“Happy Birthday Yoan. May you have all you wished for..achieve all your goals!”.

I said.. “That’s the problem.. I don’t know what I want. Right now, I can’t say for sure what my goal is. All I have is a vague idea of it. Like I’m still standing in the crossroads, thinking that all paths lead to the same place.. Anything now will do, as long as it’s positive.”

He said, “Yoan, c’mon. You’re 27. It’s not an age where you still wonder what to do. It’s an age where you start to focus and go after your goals!”

I was lost for words.. He was right. He said that damned truth in front of my face.

“You need to take some time to think about what you want. Do it now and do it fast!” he said.

Well friend.. I’ve taken the time.. Now, I’m proud to say that the goal is starting to take shape. I no longer see multiple roads in front of me but see only one. I can’t say it’s crystal clear yet.. but at least now I know what to focused on.

Thank you friend. I needed that “push” to point me to the right direction.. 🙂

Friends Forever?

Did you ever get bored with your friend?

Being on the phone with him and have no desire to say anything.. not even to try?

Giving only short answers..yes..no..maybe.. and can’t wait to end the conversation.

When just a couple of months ago you practically poured your heart out to him, talked about anything and everything?

And it all happens for no particular reason actually. It’s not like he did something wrong or anything. It’s just like the switch is off.. something is missing..the connection wasn’t there anymore. He’s suddenly become a stranger.

What should one do in that situation?

It happened to me actually and in some way it kind of made me felt uneasy. After all, he is my best friend. I felt obliged to be nice and caring. But on the other hand, the effort alone felt like such hard work. Hhhhhhhh…

But it got me thinking though..

Maybe friendship, like any other relationships, needs hard work!

At times when things go dull, you got to make some effort to bond again. To remember whatever reason that made you guys became best friends in the first place and relives it.

That’s what we usually take for granted, putting friendship in second, third or even fourth place in our life (after marriage, kids, boyfriend/girlfriend, career, social activities, etc, which is somewhat a reasonable thing to do). But then again, without friends, life is not complete, right? So maybe we need to invest our time in friendship too. Otherwise, we’ll find ourselves several years from now, surrounded by many acquaintances but no friends! Arrrggghhhh…can’t imagine how lonely that would be.

So, friends forever? Definitely!